The girls who don’t seem to engage when we teach and don’t make eye contact when we speak to them. Personally, I find myself a bit intimidated by them because I do not want to be rejected or continually feel like I am failing.
It is easy to say “well, I tried” and move past them. But do not.
I received this letter from one of my girls…
I do not really know how to say this but I literally do not know what I would do without you. You probably think that I don’t like you, this group or that I am ever listening but the truth is that this group is the only thing in my week that isn’t awful. Nobody at home asks me how I am doing or why I look so sad. They don’t notice when my eyes are puffy and they don’t care if I stay in my room all day or why. Nobody at home even hugs me. When you hug me I act weird because I feel awkward- but please don’t stop because you make me feel safe. I spend most of my days at school quiet. I walk past people in the hall that I know know me and they just act like they don’t see me. My teachers ask me how I am but are just doing that to be nice. But you really care when you ask. I see the love in your eyes and you are the greatest listener. I guess what I am trying to say is that I don’t want you to stop hugging me, or asking me how my day is going, or asking me how you can pray for me. Please never stop. Even when I am a brat and roll my eyes. Please never stop. Because I really love you. And I need you so much. That is what I wanted to say.
-10th grade girl
My eyes welled with tears and my heart was equally filled with sorrow for her and joy that the Lord allowed our paths to cross.
Do not assume that these tough cookie girls don’t love you and don’t hear you.
Let us never stop loving them and talking with them.
In my girl’s words, “please never stop.”